An Examination of Dating in the Emerald City: Part Four

Posted: Jul 19 2012

 

SEATTLE FREEZE

An Examination of Dating in the Emerald City

 

We understand that during the dating process there can be many misunderstandings or miscommunications. However, lying about one’s age seems to a fairly common “miscommunication”. Mioko, a native to Seattle, was approached in a grocery store by a decently attractive guy once. She agreed to go on a date with him but found out later that he had lied to her about his age. While you often catch people shaving a year or two off of their actual age, he told her that he was over ten years younger than his actual age! I’ll give the man credit for being able to pull off a convincing late twenties when he was actually in his forties.

Luckily, not all of Mioko’s dating experiences have involved a lying man. She credits her most successful dating experiences to match-making friends. We asked Mioko for any dating advice for those who find the Seattle Freeze a little too chilly. She said that “because Seattle is a large city, you get a huge mix of people from a lot of different places and backgrounds. Stay open minded and don’t be too picky when you first meet someone here”. She recommended giving someone a chance before you decide there is no future there. 


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  • Posted by Beatriz on August 17, 2012

    Years and years ago, I was in a bar and all of a sudden was invveold in a deep conversation with a woman who seemed very interested.Either she suddenly started bugging me, or I had too much to drink, but when the inevitable question came as to “what I do”, I told her that I was unemployed. I wasn’t unemployed at all. There was a complete 180-degree flip. She made small talk on something else and tried to keep a normal expression (she didn’t even ask what line of business I was unemployed in), then excused herself to go to the bathroom and just disappeared.I suspect the same thing would happen if you name a very low-status job. That doesn’t really happen the other way around, man/woman, obviously.Second point: I realize that it’s the American thing to nose right in there and ask people what they do for a living, but that really is frowned upon a bit (when done so quickly or done in the way that it’s done) in some other cultures. Really.And despite the people above who seem to think it’s just a harmless getting-to-know-you tactic, I doubt that because of the way the question is usually asked. It’s done for assessment and evaluation in many cases (especially when asked of men by women).I realize it doesn’t happen too often, but I can remember a clear first date in which the woman was almost trying to X-ray me in terms of finances. Her questions weren’t even subtle, and it was one question right after the other later on in the evening.

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